Ukukhathazeka: Ubhubhane Lwezenhlalo
Izinkinga zokukhathazeka ziwumzabalazo ojwayelekile wezempilo yengqondo, ngabantu abadala baseMelika abangaphezu kwezigidi ezingama-40 kanye no-74% wabantu abadala baseBrithani ababike imizwa yokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka onyakeni odlule. Izimpawu zokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka zingabandakanya izinkinga ezingokomzimba nezingokomzwelo njengokucasuka, ukungahlaliseki, ikhanda elibuhlungu, nokuqwasha. Ubhubhane kanye nokusakazwa kwezindaba njalo kwezehlakalo ezimbi kuye kwandise ukukhathazeka nengcindezi emhlabeni wonke. Noma kunjalo, ezinye izimbangela zingase zihlanganisa ubuhlobo bomuntu siqu noma ukuntuleka kwabo. I-National Alliance on Mental Illness ilinganisela ukuthi cishe ama-20% abantu base-US banenkinga yokukhathazeka.
Ukuntuleka kocansi kungabangela imizwa yokukhathazeka, ngokusho kocwaningo olwenziwa yi-National Institutes of Health ngo-2017. Ucwaningo lwathola ukuthi ukuphila kocansi okwanelisayo kungathuthukisa inhlalakahle yomzwelo futhi kwandise injabulo nokwaneliseka. Sekuyisikhathi eside kukholakala ukuthi ukuvumelana, ukuya ocansini oluphephile kubalulekile ukuze ube nomoya omuhle kanye nempilo yonke engokwengqondo. Amazinga aphansi ocansi phakathi kwabantu abadala abaphile kahle ngokomzimba avame ukuxhunyaniswa nokuba nempilo embi ngokomzwelo kanye nezocansi. Ngaphezu kwalezi zinzuzo ezijwayelekile, ukusebenzisa unodoli wocansi kungasiza ekunciphiseni ukukhathazeka futhi kwandise ukwaneliseka okuphelele.
Izindlela Eziyisi-6 zikadoli wezocansi ezingasiza ekukhathazekeni
1. Unodoli Wocansi Ungasindisa Ubudlelwano
Ukuntuleka kokusondelana kungaba umthombo wokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka, okuholela ezinkingeni ezengeziwe zempilo engokomzimba nengqondo. Nakuba kungenampilo ukucindezela umlingani ngocansi olwengeziwe, isisombululo esingase sibe usizo unodoli wocansi. Labo nodoli abanjengempilo bahlinzeka ngendlela engokwezifiso, yokukhipha izifiso zocansi ngaphandle kwengcindezi eyengeziwe noma imizwa engemihle engaba khona evela kumlingani. Angaklanywa ukuthi ahlangabezane nezintandokazi zomuntu ngamunye mayelana nokubukeka komzimba futhi ayatholakala noma nini. Ngale ndlela, unodoli wocansi anganikeza isixazululo esizuzisayo kubo bobabili abalingani.
2. Unodoli Wocansi Ungakusiza Ululame Ekuhlukaneni
Ukudlula ngokwehlukana kungenye yezinto eziyinselele kakhulu umuntu angadlula kuzo. Kungakushiya uzizwe ulahlekile, unesizungu, futhi ukhathazekile, ikakhulukazi uma ungajwayele ukuhlala noma ukulala wedwa. Nakuba kubalulekile ukuthatha isikhathi ukucubungula ukulahlekelwa futhi kudabukise ubuhlobo, lokhu kungase futhi kusabise futhi kungase kuhlanganise ukulahlekelwa okwesikhashana ukusondelana.
Isixazululo esisodwa esingasiza ekudambiseni eminye yale mizwa engemihle unodoli wocansi. Lezi zibalo ezinjengokuphila zinikeza ithuba lokukhipha izifiso zobulili. Banganikeza umuzwa wenjabulo nobungane phakathi nesikhathi esinzima. Zikuvumela futhi ukuthi udale futhi uhlole okuhlangenwe nakho okusha kocansi ngaphandle kwengcindezi eyengeziwe yobudlelwano obusha. Ekugcineni, unodoli wocansi angaba ithuluzi eliwusizo lokuzulazula ngemuva kokuhlukana nokuqhubekela phambili.
3. Unodoli Wezocansi Unganikeza Ubungane
Isizungu singaba umzwelo onzima futhi onamandla, ikakhulukazi kulabo abalahlekelwe noma abafuna ukuxhumana okunenjongo. Enye indlela abanye abantu ababhekana ngayo nalo muzwa iwukufuna ubungane nonodoli wocansi. Lezi zibalo ezinjengokuphila zinganikeza umuzwa wobungane futhi zisize ekudambiseni imizwa yokukhathazeka.
Onodoli bocansi bekhwalithi ephezulu benziwe ngezinto ezihlala isikhathi eside futhi baklanyelwe ukuhlala iminyaka, ukuze bakwazi ukunikeza ubungane besikhathi eside ngemva kokutshalwa kwezimali kokuqala. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukusondelana ngokobulili noma ukujabulela nje izinto ezinjengokulalela umculo noma ukubukela i-TV ndawonye, unodoli wocansi anganikeza umuzwa wokuxhumana nobungane abantu abaningi abawulangazelelayo.
4. Unodoli Wocansi Ungakwenza Isithandwa Esingcono
Ukukhathazeka ngabobulili obuhlukile kuyindaba evamile engaholela ekungazethembini namathuba okusondelana. Enye indlela yokubhekana nalolu daba ukusebenzisa unodoli wocansi. Lezi zibalo ezinjengokuphila zihlinzeka ngendawo eyimfihlo, engenazo ukwahlulela ukuze uzijwayeze futhi uthuthukise amakhono ocansi futhi wakhe ukuzethemba. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukufunda amasu amasha noma ukunqoba ukukhathazeka kokusebenza, unodoli wocansi uhlala etholakala futhi uzimisele ukubamba iqhaza. Lokhu kungaba usizo ikakhulukazi kulabo abanovalo ngokuzijwayeza nozakwethu ongumuntu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, unodoli wocansi akasoze azwakalisa imibono engalungile noma izikhalazo. Kungasiza ukuqinisekisa ukuthi uzizwa wanelisekile futhi uqiniseka ngamakhono akho.
5. Onodoli Bocansi Bangaba Indawo Yokuthinta Umuntu
Ezweni lanamuhla, kuya ngokuya kuvame ukuthi abantu bachithe isikhathi esiningi bebodwa futhi babe nokuxhumana okumbalwa phakathi kwabantu. Nakuba ubuchwepheshe bunezinzuzo, bungase futhi bube nesandla emizweni yokuhlukaniswa kanye nokuntuleka kokuthintwa komuntu. Lokhu kungaba nomthelela omubi empilweni yengqondo nengokomzimba.
Nakuba kungenzeki ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthintana nomuntu uma kudingeka, unodoli wocansi anganikeza enye indlela enempilo. Onodoli bocansi bekhwalithi ephezulu benziwa ngezinto ezilingisa umuzwa wesikhumba somuntu. Bangashiselwa ngisho nangomusa ukuze bathole ulwazi olufana nempilo. Nakuba abanye bengase baphikise ngokuthi imisebenzi efana ne-yoga inganikeza izinzuzo ezifanayo, unodoli wocansi unikeza injabulo eyengeziwe yokusondelana ngokwemibandela yakho nanoma nini lapho ukhetha.
6. Onodoli Bocansi Banempilo Kakhudlwana kune-Porn
Uma ungalali ngokwanele, kungase kulingeke ukuba uphendukele ezithombeni ezingcolile ukuze ufeze izifiso zakho. Kodwa-ke, ukuzitika ngocansi ngokweqile kungaba nemiphumela engemihle, njengokulutheka, ukuzehlukanisa, ulaka, izinkolelo ezisontekile mayelana nobudlelwano nobulili, kanye nemizwa engemihle ngawe. Kuye kwaxhunyaniswa nokuba buthakathaka kwengqondo, kuhlanganise nokukhathazeka. Ingase inciphise ngisho nengxenye yobuchopho ebonisa injabulo.
Esikhundleni sokuthembela ezithombeni ezingcolile, unodoli wocansi anganikeza enye indlela enempilo yokuzijabulisa ngokocansi ngaphandle kwemiphumela emibi. Lezi zibalo ezinjengokuphila zinikeza indlela yokwanelisa izifiso zakho ngaphandle kwezingozi ezihlobene nokuba umlutha wezithombe ezingcolile.
Isiphetho
Ngohlobo olufanele lukanodoli nolwazi olufanele lokuthi usetshenziswa kanjani, unodoli wocansi ungasetshenziswa ngaphezu nje kosizo lokushaya indlwabu. Kungasiza labo ababhekene nokukhathazeka, isizungu, nezinye izinkinga ukuba babuyele ezinyaweni zabo. Kungasiza futhi ukuthuthukisa amakhono akho embhedeni lapho ubambisene nomunye umuntu—futhi yebo, ngisho nekhono lakho lokuhlobana nabanye abantu!
Ngakho-ke uma ucabanga ukuzitholela eyodwa, usufike endaweni efanele. Bheka uhla lwethu lonodoli bocansi futhi ukhululeke ukusibuza uma unemibuzo — sikhona ukuze wena!
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